Look, I fixed it.
More like fuck right off.
Being a feminist, and enjoying BDSM can be done together! ACTUAL BDSM CAN BE QUITE A LOVING EXPERIENCE DONE RIGHT. And by telling women that they’re brainwashed or being abused because they as FELLOW WOMEN enjoy participating in BDSM is NOT being a feminist. Let them do whatever the fuck they want, its their fucking right! They enjoy it, they FUCKING WANT IT. and if they don’t? THEN IT DOESN’T FUCKING HAPPEN YOU, HYPOCRITICAL NIPPLEDICK.
NOT TO MENTION WOMEN CAN BE THE “ABUSERS” TOO SO FUCKING STOP.
The basis of BDSM is violence. BDSM is built around violence. Violence isn’t love. You shouldn’t hurt the people you love, no matter how much they ‘consent’ to it. Consent is not the be all end all of sexual violence. As hello-missmayhem has said, “you can’t fantasize about pedophilia, play-act pedophilia, and then get mad when people call you a pedophile. same applies to all bdsm. I don’t care if it’s consensual. people can consent to all sorts of things. one guy literally consented to be killed, cooked, and eaten. that doesn’t make it right, or okay, or free them from criticism. and it didn’t save the cannibal from prison. maybe because consent is NOT the end-all-be-all of the kink conversation, or any conversation. if I consent to let you shoot me in the face, it’s still murder. if a woman consents to let a man abuse her, it’s still abuse…. what you don’t seem to understand is that your “kinks” don’t just stay in your bedroom, and they don’t only affect you. Actual women are actually being robbed of justice because of your kinks. you’re prioritizing the way you have orgasms over justice for rape victims.”
Maybe get an understanding of socialization and conditioning before you start defending things. Kinks aren’t innate. They are socialized into us. Women are not born with the innate want to be hit, subjugated and humiliated. We are groomed into wanting that by a patriarchal society.
Also, female doms are still an issue. And male subs are too.
Normalizing violence against women is NOT a feminist act. You don’t just claim to be a feminist. It has to be reflected in what you do. Otherwise, any misogynist can (and they do) claim to be feminists and gain the trust of women, only for those women to be mistreated.
Love, a woman who used to be involved in violent sex and started to critically analyze her behavior and unlearn the things that ultimately (in the long run) didn’t help me and made me feel worse.